Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Wedding-ness, etiquette and just an all around breaking of the rules ;)

Good morning y'all. I've had a lovely morning filled with coffee and blog reading. I did happen to read one blog that I felt that I want to comment on about bridal showers...so this blog will be dedicated to that.

Ahhh, weddings. Everyone does them and all the fun festivities that surround them differently. We all have different views on proper etiquette and sometimes there just isn't any. I think that's what makes weddings fun because then you get to see the differences in your friends and how it translates to their special time. When Joel and I first sat down and started making a guest list we set some rules. We only wanted people that we were close with and wanted to extend those relationships in the future. We had rules about partners of our friends and the whole 'and guest' business. We both decided that we didn't want to look back at our wedding pictures and think "who is that?". Although it is proper etiquette to invite single individuals with the 'and guest' we passed on that. I mean, if the person had been in a committed relationship for about a year or more then of course we put 'and guest' or actually put that persons name. Then came the bridal shower. I asked around about 'proper etiquette' and nobody had a solid answer for me. I then revisited the guest list and thought about when Joel and I had sat down and made it. They were all the people that were not only important in my life, but in his life as well. As I looked at it, it became even more clear to me that all the people on his side were also going to be a part of my life now. I decided to invite all of the women that were invited to the wedding. I did this to include his side in my life and open the doors to our future relationships. I wanted them to feel a part of my life...an introduction and a welcoming if you will. I guess I know what it is like to be excluded as a partner when I feel that I am such a part of someone's life. That and I want to get to know his friends and family. If they are important to Joel then obviously they must be some pretty fantastic people.

Well...that's my thoughts on that. Back to my coffee and on to some crafting for the wedding. Hope y'all have an absolutely fabulous day!

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